My dad asked me why I write a blog. I told him I don't really know. Maybe just as a journal. But I have a separate for that. So maybe just a public journal. Oh wait. That is a blog. So I guess I jut put stuff that i want people to know and to think about. I hope it helps you, or gives you is not a waste when you read it, or something like that.
So, i have had a lot of thought. like What do girls want? We want to be loved. To be noticed. We hate being the man in the relationship and want the guy to make the first move. Unfortunatly some guys tend to be scared. So we end up starting it. Flirting. But then they may get a confused. Because they would think "oh she flirts with EVERYONE". My goodness. High school boys are silly. So all i can say is Gents, if you dare to call your self that, Guys, I sure hope you will always treat your ladies with respect. We deserve nothing less. A quality I look for in a guy is defiantly that he will treat me with the upmost value. I actually have quite the list of what I expect in my man. I realized lately I have not so much been following what I want. Which is clearly not a smart decision. Ladies, when you set the expectations of what you want in a guy. Never turn back or try to bend the expectation. Unless it is for good reason, because we all know the story of when the guy searched far and wide for miss right. And when he found her, guess what happened. She was looking for Mr right and HE was not HIM. We will never find the perfect one. But dang, we can get pretty darn close. I have seen it. And I want it. However, if we want the lasting relationship we cannot turn our nose up at everything. Something I need to work on. So what do I want? I will not marry shorter. Why?..because it's awkward. Kissing would not be ideal. I guess when your in love they say everything is different. Well I don't care. He's got to have a few inches on me. He MUST have a nice smile. That is my favorite. I love smiles. And his will be not much less than perfect. I expect cleanliness. No Santa beard. But scruff is fine if he wants. But a clean chin is definitely wonderful. Do I sound high maintenance or what? Ha. Okay his personality must be. Well willing. I guess I don't what marry so I will not date a guy who won't have fun. I want to have fun. To go on adventures. Road trips. Picnics at the park. Dancing. Bowling. Bike rides. Making food together. And just doing fun activities rather than sitting at home. He must have a sense of humor. And no not like Monty Python. Ew. He needs to make me laugh. Usually isn't too hard but I want to be able to laugh and joke for hours like best friends. Another point. I want him to be my best friend. I would love for him to be an RM and a strong believer of Jesus Christ and strong in the gospel. I think that reason mostly not just because I want him to be. But because I want him to be able to help me and so we can have our kids grow up that way with good standards. And to be in the church. I would like him to have a passion. A passion that is not boyish. I would love for that passion to be as much as a love for music, children, building things, or just something like that. Maybe camping. Or hiking? Those are two wonderful activities. I am also looking for an emotionally healthy guy, who is kind and not just to me, but to everyone around him. Educated and Patient are very high on the list. I would like determination in his schooling and i am the worst with patience. It is my goal to work on. I supose i could go on about things i want, but these are just a few that i'd really apreciate. Making a list such as this will put us on the right track and that way we can know what we are searching for in someone, and if there is a trait or quality the person does not fill, i think there are many more dates possible. So not only do i have a 'what i want' list, but also a 'what i don't want'. This, my friends, is key. If you put no restricstions then there is no limit, so you could just be kidding yourself, and making excuses for why they would be right. For example, You find someone who is adorable and kind, and just everything you think. But they slack off at work, arent tidy, and tends to be arrogant. And you say "Oh its okay, they will get better, and its just nothing. It doesnt matter". Are you joking yourself? If something is not right. Quit. Its only going to be harder the longer you wait. So what do i not want? Cynical. Pessimistic. Who wants to be with a negative nancy all the time? Not me. I will not stand for someone who is sloppy, undependable, a tv junkie, flirts with others, nor extremely shy. Again, these are definetly not all, but i do have my standards up high. No, i, won't find mr. perfect, especially the first time round, but i can get close. We can all get close. We can also learn to deal with the silly differences between one another. So i am a senior in high school and thinking about this. Probably because i can't wait. Though i should. Probably because i know so many people who have just gotten married or are engaged. And its crazy. I will be in college in a year and working towards my future of that, but i want it to be perfect. I guess that is that. I should probably stop here.
Aside from that i read a scripture saying, "Wickedness never was happiness". Wow. Those words could never be more true. I think we have all learned this from experience as well. I know I have. And I have learned that repentance and forgiveness are amazing. We all do silly things we regret. And turning to the Lord truly is the best way to handle it. Do I always say this? Maybe because I am the one frequently making those mistakes. Maybe not ideal but the Lord sent us here for these trials. He would never give us anything that we couldn't handle. That is why change, for the best is always good as well. For the best.
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