It has been a little
while in my blogging history. Every time I have sat down to write, I could not
gather all my thoughts and just felt like I was whining. But lately I have been
learning a few lessons. Mainly that if I put all my Faith in the Lord Jesus Christ,
and trust in him, all things will work out for the best. Along with a positive
attitude and the willingness to change for the best.
Life has thrown at me
a few huge rocks lately and I found myself falling down. And not just falling,
but crashing. Feeling sorry for myself and making the wrong decisions. And then
I talked to a few inspiring people and they helped me change my perspective. My
Uncle, a great man, told me a story of two brothers:
A few years ago, a news reporter was intrigued by two
brothers, who had completely opposite life's. One brother was a
multi-millionaire, happily married, active in his church and community. The
other?Well, he was a drunk, divorced,
abusive to his kids, and very unhappy.
The reporter wanted to better understand why they ended up the way they
had.
The
newspaper first reported about the brother with the
negative effects of life.When asked,
'why he was a drunk, abusive, and led such a poor life', he responded with this
first sentence: "You see...I didn't have a choice. My father was a drunk,
and abused me as a child, and I never knew anything else. I really didn't have
a choice".
A
day or two latter, the reporter published the second
portion of the story.This time in
regards to the successful, happy, wealthy, and leader of his community. When
asked,
'why he was able to be a leader in his community, happily married, and
financially wealthy', he responded with this as his first sentence:"You
see...I didn't have a choice. My
father was a drunk, and abused me as a child. I really didn't have a
choice".
The difference
between these two brothers? Attitude. The first brother, following after the
image of his father, gained little in life, cursing the wind for no reason and
feeling sorry for himself because of course he would end up just like his
father. The second brother however knew what he wanted. He wasn't about to let
his past get the best of him. He made it to the top of the chain simply because
he knew he could. The choice for these brothers was simple. Were they going to
follow after their father, or make a difference in the world and change for the
best.
I have found that
plastering a smile on my face can be difficult, yet it is the best thing to do.
I want to achieve the goals that I have made. I am not willing to take the
chance of letting anyone ruin my abilities to what I can do. With these
challenges in my life, I have been finding myself over use the word
"why", yet I have learned that there is never really a clear answer
as to "why" in this case. I have been thinking a lot about my future.
Often catching myself sulking for what I don't have or what others have more
than me, I've realized that I am comparing my worst to their best. Everyone has
trials the size of elephants. At different parts of life yes, but we also need
to understand that we don't know what others are going through and focus on
serving no matter that cause, and taking care of ourselves.
The power of choice
is incredible.There are critical
decisions in life....but perhaps one of the most important, is what are you
going to become, given your personal circumstances in your life and family.
all my heart. I decided that "I don't have a choice" and that I am
going to have the best life that I can. I will have a beautiful family and
finish my education well, no matter what my background is. Even when life seems
to be crummy. Look up with a smile, for the Lord has much in plan for each and
every one of us. He is GOOD.
